My husband and I have worked with challenged youth since 1970. We became foster parents for teen boys who were court ordered to our home on a farm because of breaking the law. Each of our boys had addiction(s) of many types. Some were considered ‘dangerous’ because of their anger issues while most were addicted to substances. We had four boys at a time in our home during the three years we served as foster parents. They taught us more than we ever taught them. We learned to have real love laced patience, to enjoy the smallest gains in our relationships, and how to discipline in love; carefully picking the issues most needful and leaving hairstyles and clothing choices remain nonissues. Our boys prepared us for becoming parents of our own three children and many of their friends. At that time there was no literature concerning the brain development of youth. Today we can see why there is such a huge struggle for youth to overcome their habits. I have copied part of an article below from Intoxicated on Life, about pornography. This article gave me insight into the struggles of youth challenged by any addiction. I hope you will find this site helpful. I also recommend their book, The Talk, http://www.intoxicatedonlife.com/the-talk/ for your children to help them avoid the cultural attitudes toward today’s idea of recreation using sex.
Porn rewires the human brain. Scientific studies have confirmed that using porn over and over actually reshapes these areas of the brain resulting in loss of willpower. A brain addicted to porn confuses the differences between needs and desires because of the inability to weigh consequences. Instead of using the brain to regulate behavior, make goals and suppress impulses, porn addicts become slaves to the dopamine and stimuli experienced while viewing porn. Neuroscientists call it hypofrontality. Hypofrontality is observed in schizophrenia patients, and is also observed in all manner of addictions. For the entire article and additional information see: http://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/02/28/hypofrontality/