The Woman at the Well; Where Were Her Children?
When I saw the following report I thought of the woman Jesus approached at a well in Samaria and the life changing conversation she had with Him.
The Family Research Council’s (FRC) Marriage and Religion Research Institute (MARRI) found troubling abortion-related data from the federal National Survey of Family Growth for the years 2006-2010. http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg.htm The troubling relationships that were found included that 90 percent of women who report having had one or more abortions have had three or more male sexual partners. And the more sexual partners a woman has the more likely she is to abort. The younger a woman is when she starts sexual intercourse the more likely she is to have an abortion. Girls who start sexual intercourse at ages 12, 13 or 14 are the most likely to abort of all women (about 40 percent of them abort). Cohabitation is closely related to abortion: All but 17 percent of abortions are to women who have cohabited and the more cohabitation the higher the rates of abortion. -17-2014 Tony Perkins’ Washington Update; Family Research Council: 801 G Street N.W. Washington, D.C. 20001
Because of what Powerful Choices does for youth we are passionately encouraged. Our research of shows that students who are taught Powerful Choices lessons are less likely to have multiple partners, less likely to initiate intimacy before marriage and most likely to choose not to co-habit until marriage. In other words, one of the main reasons that abortions among our youth have decreased in Iowa as well as across our nation and that the number of youth choosing to wait until marriage for intimate physical relationships has dramatically increased is because of work like ours at Equipping Youth. Thank you for partnering with us to bring life changing conversations to the youth of our communities.
Be Aware Parents, One lesson of Powerful Choices is CHOOSE AWARENESS. Students in 7th and 8th grade are encouraged by the fact that 79% of youth in Iowa aged 12-18 are choosing to remain abstinent (Youth Risk Behavior Survey, Iowa 2010). We use gaming and demonstrations so youth may discover the factors that influence those few youth who choose to become intimately involved before marriage. Students choose to avoid these negative risks.
A new study from Ohio University suggests that among teen and young adults, poor mental health has a reciprocal relationship with casual sex as each contributes to the other over time. Ohio State University researchers found that teens that showed depressive symptoms were more likely than others to engage in casual sex as young adults. In addition, those who engaged in casual sex were more likely to later seriously consider suicide. Nauert PhD, Rick, Senior News Editor; Mental Health Issues Intertwined with Casual Sex .
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. :PschicCentral.com, November 20, 2013 http://psychcentral.com/news/2013/11/20/mental-health-issues-intertwined-with-casual-sex-among-teens/62291.html
Another lesson we teach is CHOOSE BOUNDARIES where students are encouraged to cooperate with the boundaries that are set for their SAFETY by their parents, teachers and community. To enable teens to succeed in reaching for their goals the students gain an understanding of the reasons for setting personal boundaries. Take time this week to converse with your teen or a teen at church or in the community about whether the rules and boundaries in their lives are adequate in keeping them from feeling vulnerable or unappreciated and unloved. A teen several years ago commented in class,
“My parents don’t care what I do as long as I am not a bother to them or get into any legal trouble that would come back on them. I have no rules. I don’t think they even care about me.”
I believed this was how the student felt; however I have met parents who have said
“I trust my child to do what is right without making any rules. That way we will remain friends and he/she will learn to be independent.”
Please communicate your love for your teen. Listen without interruption to their life dreams and needs. Help them set personal goals that are short term and attainable along with long term ones that they can start achieving now. Help them to realize that intention will not gain the prize.
Setting goals with activities to accomplish them and boundaries to stay on track results in unlimited successes.
The best way to love your kids to love your spouse!
Youth, without life examples of wholesome and faithful marriages, may have greater difficulty in understanding how to establish quality relationships with others. The enemy of unborn children and marriage is the same enemy that hates abstinence education because of its priority of teaching youth the benefits of waiting for their partners in marriage. When youth gain character traits and assets that contribute to their future successful marriage and family relationships the arc enemy suffers great defeats.
Paulette Kmetz volunteering for Choose Wisdom classes taught to five different classrooms of students each day (more than 100 students) at Center Point Urbana Middle School last week. We finish Choose Ambition and Choose Success next week.
We have been impressed by the respect and favor the students show us. Our lessons have been taught in this school for many years in 8th grade classes. The results of our internal evaluation of the lessons will be noted next month.
Some ways to stretch your investment in youth:
Matching gifts – Ask your company if there is a matching program
Wills and bequests – Including this organization as a beneficiary will continue your partnership with us into the future.
United Way Designation – At your place of employment ask for a form to fill out so your UW donation will benefit Equipping Youth of Sexual Health Education, Inc. Call for added information.
Your partnering with us is essential for youth, their families and our communities! Thank you!
Ruth Anne Eccles, MSN Volunteer Executive Director